Where did the love go? Using your 5 senses to bring the love back (part 4)

Part 4: Touch

Yes touch is a great way to show someone you love him or her. The gentlest touch is sometimes the best. Caressing the shoulder, holding their hand, rubbing there back… and of course the list goes on.

Do you remember that first touch? How it felt to finely have that personal connection between you and the one you love? I think touch gets lost in translation in these times. Touch always seems to be associated with sex. Why is that the case? I can blame endless society issues on why sex is at the forefront when it comes to relationships but when it comes down to it, it’s our fault, yours and mine.

Simpler times remind us of how great it felt to hold hands for the first time, to share a really long and tight hug, to walk arm and arm. When he brushed your hair back, when she fixed the collar on your shirt and vice versa. Those are the moments that are continuous and endless. The truth of the matter is if we really focus on all types of touch shared between one and their partner there would be less confusion and more honest love.

This blog is called ‘where did the love go?’ I don’t think it’s lost so what is the real question. The real question is why have we lost the signs that love is right in front of you? It’s the little things that keep the reminder of how much he or she loves you. So lets indulge on the little things. Embrace each other! Go back to simpler times and remember the love in each simple touch and each more profound embrace. Allow those butterflies to engulf you when they tickle you out of the blue. Enjoy each touch, each embrace, every hug, each kiss… we’ll talk more about the kissing in part 5.

Homework (have you been getting an A on your assignments, post in the comments)!
Today I though “what’s better then a simple massage you both can do on each other”.

Instructions

Step 1 Make sure you have clean hands. It doesn't matter if they are cold or warm. Sometimes cold hands actually will feel good on a tight, stiff neck.

Step 2 Set the scene, if you have the time. Turn on some soft music. Turn off the blazing television set.

Step 3 Have the person take off any necklaces and pull up their hair (if it is long, it will probably need to be clipped up onto the head).

Step 4 Either have the person lie down or sit down in front of you while you sit on a higher chair. A good technique is having the person sit on the floor while you sit on a chair or sofa. This is a good height for most people.

Step 5 If you choose, you can use some lotion as you massage. If you choose to use lotion, try to find some that has a relaxing scent to it like lavender.

Step 6 Start at the base of the neck, in the middle of the shoulder area and slowly begin massaging. Use soft, slow squeezing type motions. Listen to how the recipient of the massage is responding. Does he/she seem to be relaxing?

Step 7 Continue these squeezing type motions all the way up the neck. Remember continue slowly. Go as high up into the hair line as you possibly can. Once you reach the head, extend your hand out and kneed the head/scalp with your fingers, again slowly and gently.

Step 8 Slowly work you way back down to the shoulder blade. Gently massage the shoulder area all the way to the end of each shoulder. This will keep any tension from moving from the neck into the shoulder.

Step 9 Repeat the process back up the neck. As you work your way back down this time, stop at the side of the neck. Gently kneed the side of the neck towards the front and then repeat the same movements to the other side of the neck.

Step 10 Again, give the shoulder blades one more good massage. Ask the recipient how he/she feels. Repeat if necessary and if your hands can stand it

By Linda McCloud, eHow Member