The Truth About Marriage.

I am always asked why marriage is so important. The truth is it is not for everyone. If, however, you are contemplating marriage, I have this to say to you. We celebrate birthdays, milestones, holidays, and every other important day in our lives. We do this to be thankful and appreciate what we have, to celebrate with family and friends. Marriage is certainly no different. The desire to marry is strong because of the benefits is provides. Making a commitment to someone is important and therefore something to be shared with friends and family. I often hear that it is just a piece of paper. In my experience, that is certainly not the case.

Is marriage easy? At times yes, at times no. People often have unrealistic expectations of marriage. They think it may be a fairy tale. A marriage is what any other relationship is…like that with parents, friends, and family. It is wonderful, it is tough, it’s frustrating, it can be magical, and there will be lots of love and fights.

Aside from all the financial benefits, which are substantial…marriage is a sacred institution for many reasons. The commitment itself is a means of separating a casual relationship from a serious one for most people. It is a commitment to being together, starting a family, and creating a lifelong nest of security, love, and happiness. People have gifts to offer each other…love, respect, kindness, caring, etc. When it comes to a relationship, these gifts are only truly and freely given within the confines of a commitment. You wouldn’t give everything you have to someone who may simply take those gifts and disappear easily. A marriage is the key that opens that very special treasure chest for most people.

Rarely do people find comfort in being alone. Having someone to share your ups and downs with is an amazing feeling and knowing the other person has made such a grand commitment and will be there of their own free will is a feeling I highly recommend. You don’t buy a car, a house, or even a pet from your local shelter without a contract. A marriage should have at least the same weight.

There are people who will challenge what I have said here, and that is fine. Perhaps marriage is not for you. But just because something isn’t for you, doesn’t mean it is ok to mock it or belittle it… as it means the entire world to those who choose it. We cannot destroy that which we do not aspire to, unless we are ok with being belittled by those who do not share our vision.

The Wedding Gal