Photographer observations from the other side, and some food for thought

Over the years I have had the honor of being hired as the photographer for many a couple’s wedding- both young and old. Recently, my family and I attended the wedding of a relative as guests. Such a relaxing change from my vantage point! I got to sit out in the audience as the observer and watch everything happen, instead of working! As the formal pictures were taken, and throughout the evening,  I couldn’t help myself but just take mental notes of what was going on in front of me, and relate to my past experiences.

When we (photogs) are working your big day, we know that everyone is on pins and needles and nervous. That includes us too! We want everything to go off as smoothly as possible from an artistic and technical standpoint, as well making sure we can deliver the best possible service and products for you and your family as future family heirlooms. Sometimes things don’t go smoothly. I am sure you have heard and read this before, but make sure your photographer is EXPERIENCED IN WEDDINGS, and not just the casual shooter. Make sure they have backup equipment READY TO GO in case of problems. I had this happen several years ago (film days). The b/g were getting ready to light the unity candle, when my main camera rig jammed. No worry. I had a complete backup rig right under the first row of chairs nearby and out of the way. I casually walked over, picked up rig and kept right on shooting. Later I told the b/g what happened and that we needed to re-stage the candle lighting. Surprised, they were hardly phased, and said, “Gee we didn’t even notice”. That is the way it is supposed to be if this were to happen. Seamless.

When your photographer is taking the formal pictures, please do not get offended if your photog is “taking charge” to a point. Must know how to MANAGE PEOPLE. We know that in most cases that after the vows are exchanged, your guests are headed to or are at the reception waiting for your grand entrance. The photog should not have a deer in the headlights expression on their face as to what group photo or family pictures to do next. If they are well experienced, then this is a moot point. Photographing the bride/bridesmaids and groom/groomsmen with respective parents early on before the ceremony works great and saves time. Or if not possible, then all formal pictures in their entirety should be no longer than 30-40mins total after the wedding ceremony. Closer to 30 mins afterwards would be ideal. I have worked both scenarios numerous times. I have no problem with making a brief professional yet polite announcement before the formal picture session starts that we need to have grandma, grandpa, brother, uncle, aunt so N so please stay in “this area” (is designated) so we may efficiently complete the pictures. Your family and guests will appreciate your photographer managing the situation professionally. Take pictures with the elders as early as possible so they can retreat to a more peaceful environment. Young kids next as they are tired/antsy and won’t be able to hold their attention too much longer without starting to cry. Everyone else should be ready upon the call. A lot of times it may seem like a cattle call, but things need to keep moving. There is nothing more frustrating than having to stop and have someone go find family members that may have wandered off to come take their picture, losing time. 

Please make sure that someone from either side of your family, who knows most of the people you wish to be photographed with, is responsible for making sure everyone stays “on deck” so to speak.  I had one father of the bride who had a shot list. I asked him if he would mind managing it, as he knew who the family members were. He ran right down the list! Check. Check. Check.

You should not have to ask “where is the photographer at?” at ANY point in time during the entire wedding or reception. Our job is to be prepared to capture any image that lends itself available at ANY time. Personally, I am within 12-15 feet of the b/g during the reception. Especially when it comes to the couple going around greeting their guests at the tables. I am always ready (and have captured) numerous priceless expressions of joy and elation permanently because I was always ready and nearby without drawing attention to myself. My observation at the recent event we attended was that the shooter was nowhere near the b/g during the guest greetings, but rather tinkering with some equipment near the dj. Lots of priceless moments were lost IMO.

Now don’t get me wrong. I understand different businesses run their operations that best suit them. However, when I contract with a couple for photographic services, it is for the entire evening until they leave. I don’t double book. I know things can run behind, but I am not watching any clocks. I don’t need the stress and neither does the bride, groom and family. This last departing shot (exit shot, bubbles, sparklers, whatever) is the perfect end photo to a glorious day and evening. It is a shame to find out that your photographer ended up leaving right at the end of their 4,6 or 8 hour mark, when there were still goings on at the party. I’ve seen this happen. I believe in providing my clients an excellent experience, and not just for a set amount of hours. But that is just me.

Just food for thought….

Kenneth Houston

Kenneth Houston Photographics

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