Ceremony Information

Ceremony Information

Which side of the church do I sit on?

* Left side of the church is the bride's side
* Right side of the church is the groom's side

* If the two sides look uneven it's perfectly acceptable for the ushers to escort guests to the side that has less people.
* If it’s a Jewish wedding, switch sides...bride on the right, groom on the left

What is the correct order for the attendants in the processional?

There are many variations to the processional, we have only given you one.

* The groom and best man are already at the altar
* Groomsmen first
* Bridesmaids follow
* Maid of honor
* Flower girl and ring bearer
* Bride walks with her father, other escort or by herself.

* If you have a big wedding party your groomsmen and bridesmaids can walk in pairs

Which side of the church does the bride walk up the aisle with her father?

Traditionally, the bride walks on her father’s left side. If the bride has a long train, you might want to consider being on your father’s right side so that he doesn’t have to walk around your train to take his seat.

What is the order of the recessional?

* Bride & groom first
* Flower girl & ring bearer next
* Maid of honor & best man
* Bridesmaids & ushers in couple pairs

* If you have an attendant without a partner they walk alone

What do I do with my veil at the ceremony?

* Your maid of honor will help you put your veil over your face before you walk down the aisle.
* After you father walks you down the aisle he will turn your veil up and give you a kiss
* Your maid of honor will fix the veil so that it's in place and looks nice

What do I do with my engagement ring?

* Before the ceremony put your engagement ring on your right hand
* After the groom puts your wedding band on, you can slip on your engagement ring

* Your wedding band should be worn first so that it's closer to your heart

I'm wearing gloves ... what happens when we exchange rings?

* You can buy gloves with a pre-sewn slit on the ring finger or you can slit the seam of the glove yourself allowing easy access to your ring finger without having to remove your glove.

When do I give my bouquet to my maid of honor?

* After your father has kissed you and your maid of honor fixes your veil, you can hand her your bouquet. Your maid of honor will bring your bouquet up to the altar with her when your marriage certificate is being signed and will hand it over to you after you have finished signing. Remember to place your bouquet with the heads of the flowers outwards for the photographer.

I have children, can I wear a white dress?

* Etiquette states that you shouldn't wear white but choose off white or have colored accents sewn into your white dress.
* Etiquette also states that you can't wear a veil, choose a tiara, floral head piece or hat.

Who sits in reserved seats and how can I reserve seats/pews in the church?

* Reserved seats are for immediate family and anyone else that is important to you. These seats are up front...best seats in the house
* Use bows, decorations or rope off the seats/pews that are reserved
* Let your ushers know who will be sitting in the reserved sections.

* You can also in “Within the Ribbon” cards. These are little cards sent with the invitation to your VIP guests that will be seated up front. These guests will bring this card and show it to your ushers.

Who walks me down the aisle my father or my stepfather?

* If you are very close to both men your father is the one who gets the privilege.
* Emily Post says it’s a no-no to have both men walk with you but if they get along and you want it that way…go for it. We won’t tell.

Should I have a receiving line at the church?

If you are not having a reception or a receiving line at your reception location, then yes. Ask the church if they will allow you to have a receiving line on their property first. If there is another wedding immediately following yours, the church may require you to leave the premises.

What happens if I forget what I'm supposed to do?

Not to worry, your wedding planner or the minister/priest will guide you through the ceremony. HeShe will tell you where to stand, what to say and what to do. Making mistakes and forgetting is a normal occurrence at every wedding.