Calling off your wedding

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How do you tell your fiancé that you do not want to walk down the aisle?

Your wedding day is days, weeks or months away and this little voice saying “He’s not the one”, “You’re not ready”, “Don’t marry him” keeps creeping up in your mind, increasing uncertainty. What do you do? If at this point you don’t have things sorted in your relationship, should you get married?

If in doubt about what to do when calling off a wedding, read below for our help:
 

You’re Fiancé

Many say that the hardest part of calling off your wedding is telling your fiancé. He will feel devastated, betrayed and somewhat embarrassed-along with the other thousands of emotions he will feel, however if you’re having doubts about getting married then probably your best option is NOT to get married. For all you know, he could feel exactly the same as you; wanting to tell you that he doesn’t want to get married just yet but doesn’t know how to do it and doesn’t want to break your heart. Eventually, over time, he will get over his heartbreak.

His Family & Friends

His relatives will be hurt because he is hurt and will also feel humiliated. Not all things go to plan and as they say the older you are, the wiser you get so I’m sure they will eventually appreciate your honesty and forgive you.

Yourself

There are so many things to think about; emotions, what people will think etc but the bottom line is you will feel a huge sigh of relief…and guilt! Be sure to think things over a thousand times before making the final decision because chances are, it’ll be the end of the relationship. It will certainly be a life lesson for the both of you and will shape you both accordingly.

You’re Family & Friends

They will be shocked, especially if they know of no past troubles in your relationship. Perhaps they have spent a lot of money on your wedding, as you know its custom for the bride’s father to pay for his daughter’s wedding. In such instances, please be patient with them when you are getting an earful from your parents, brothers and sisters for making mum and dad spend so much money for absolutely nothing. Have no fear as these emotions usually last for a week or so and in the end they will be happy that you made the best decision for yourself.

Guests

Once you’ve informed your fiancé you should inform your guests either by a call, email or note that the wedding will not go ahead. Some would have most probably travelled from abroad or booked a nearby hotel so it’s best to apologise and let them know way in advance or as soon as you possibly can. REMEMBER all gifts must be returned!

Suppliers

At this stage, you have either paid for the entire wedding or you have paid deposits on services such as florist, photographer, venue etc. Be sure to cancel everything and if you can’t bear speaking to people then get your closest friends to do so. It could definitely be the most expensive decision you’ve made but it’s much cheaper than a divorce! You must remember not to offend the supplier and not seem to be wasting their time. Many will sympathise with you and if you have informed them within good time you may get your money back or make use of them for other things. If you have wedding insurance, you must notify them straight away.