4 Ways Christian Couples Can Tell If They Are Ready to Marry

Marriage is such a serious decision. While it’s a beautiful experience to find someone you’d like to spend the rest of your life with, it’s also an enduring commitment for a lifetime. The main reason why many people don’t have lasting marriages anymore is that they don’t truly think about the future or what true love is. They operate in their feelings of lust and temporary attraction. However, there are four ways that Christian couples can tell if they’re really ready for the long-term commitment that marriage brings.

Pre-Marital Counseling

It’s important to have a neutral, wise third-party to moderate the conversation surrounding marriage. Whether that’s a trusted minister or a Christian therapist, be sure to sit down with someone to talk through the tough conversations. Conversations about money, health, and children are absolutely essential to the health of any union. If you don’t have answers to these questions, it can make a difference in whether or not you and your partner are suited for one another.

Purpose & Plans

It’s important for you two to consider the type of relationship you’d like to have. What is the purpose of your union? What are your future plans? Do they involve children? Adoption? Ministry?  Consider if you two make each other better when you’re together. When you can create a union that’s fruitful and beneficial to the lives around you, it’s a sign that you’re ready for marriage with one another.

Reflection & Thoughtfulness

When you look at the story of the Proverbs 31 woman, she was wise in all of her decisions. She thought about others, operated in integrity and created opportunities herself and others. These are powerful attributes for both men and women to embody. Take time to be reflective and thoughtful about whether you two are committed to living according to the scriptures as you build your union and family. Consider other examples as well. Think about couples you two admire and why. As you think thoroughly about the future, it can help you two get on the same page regarding what you two want out of life.

Conflict Resolution

Marriage is about forgiveness and love. You two will argue or get into disagreements at times. When this happens, you need to know how to resolve conflict peacefully. It’s important to fully grasp tactics in conflict resolution. When you don’t deal with a conflict, it only builds a wall between you and your partner. Learning how to resolve issues with kindness and prayer will help you two in your quest for optimal communication and spiritual happiness.

Marriage is a lot more than the wedding day, especially for Christian couples who value chastity, commitment, and family values. A Christ-centered marriage involves making hard decisions, compromises, and enduring love. When you think you’re ready for this type of commitment, be sure to communicate thoughtfully with prayer and with trusted people in your life. You and your future spouse will value the time and consideration you gave to this momentous choice.