Zita Christian's Blog – January 2014 Archive (3)

One of my couples wanted their moms to have meaningful roles in the wedding ceremony. The groom's mom was Polish so I incorporated a traditional ritual of dark bread and salt and used authentic Polish plate. My problem was how to involve the bride's mom. She didn't speak English; I don't speak Chinese. I came up with a simple ritual based on a Chinese legend about love. At the…

He calls her his “Moon.” She calls him her “Sun and Stars.”

He is Khal Drogo, the testosterone heavy, alpha male leader of the Dothraki warrior tribe – proud, fearless, and ruthless, at least in the beginning. Very Mars. She is Daenerys Targaryen, his wife – estrogen aplenty, beautiful, compassionate, and submissive, at least in the beginning. Very Venus. Theirs is an…

Even the shortest, simplest wedding ceremony deserves to be special. It is, after all, a celebration of love and a commitment intended to last for life. It was for these simple ceremonies that I created a ritual I call “The Wedding Jar.”

I initially designed this ritual for same-sex couples who came to Connecticut where marriage equality is honored, where residency is not a requirement, and where there is no waiting period. I quickly discovered how easily the ritual can be adapted for…