Marriage Challenges During Lockdown | 社區隔離期間的婚姻挑戰

A sad statistic showed the number of the domestic violence increased during lockdown since couples (and family members) are sticking together a lot more. Tension could be increased and unsolved problems would intensify. 令人遺憾的統計數據顯示，由於夫妻（和家庭成員）在一起的情況越來越多，因此在社區隔離期間家庭暴力的數量增加了。 加劇緊張，未解決的問題將會加劇。

No one chose to live with and to love someone who would harm themselves in the first place. A lot of tragedies actually came from miscommunication. To love someone is a life-long lesson. Instead of looking back and blame each other what they have done wrong, shall we look forward and see what we can do if we still commit to make it work? 沒有人會選擇與一個會傷害自己的人生活。 很多悲劇源於溝通問題。 愛一個人是一生的功課。 與其回顧過去並互相指責他們做錯了什麼，不如我們繼續致力解決問題，我們應該看看可以做到什麼？

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We are not relationship experts and can’t solve every family issues, however, we would love to suggest our couples to look at their own “love languages”. 我們不是關係專家，不能解決每個家庭的問題，但是，我們建議我們的情人及夫妻研究他們自己的”愛情語言”。

The Five Love Languages is a book published by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992. It says there are 5 ways to express and experience love:

– words of affirmation
– acts of service
– receiving gifts
– quality time
– physical touch

五種愛的語言是加里·查普曼（Gary Chapman）於1992年出版的一本書。它說有5種表達和體驗愛的方式：

-肯定的話
-服務行為
-接受禮物
-優質時間
-身體接觸

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To find out your own love language is as important as knowing your love one’s love language, since love is a two-way street requires both sides to invest time and effort in. 找出自己的愛語言與了解自己的愛人的愛語言一樣重要，因為愛是一條雙向路，需要雙方投入時間和精力。

We did the love language test before and find it useful. Both of our main love language is ‘Quality Time’, so we like to spend 1 on 1 time and doing things together without distraction, however, our second love languages are different. Tina’s one is ‘Receiving Gifts’ (and her last love language is ‘Physical Touch’), Edward’s one is ‘Physical Touch’ (and his last love language is ‘receiving gifts’). So, it is interesting, the way Tina expresses love may not be valued by Edward. At the same time, Edward’s way in expressing love may not be appreciated by Tina. We both learnt to pay attention to each other’s needs and express in the way the other half can understand. 我們之前做過這測試，發現它很有用。 我倆主要的戀愛語言都是“優質時間”，因此我們喜歡花1對1的時間在一起和做事而不會分心，但是，我們的第二種語言卻不同。 Tina是“接收禮物”（她排最後的是“身體接觸”），Edward的是“身體接觸”（他排最後的是“接收禮物”）。 因此，有趣的是，Edward可能不會珍惜Tina表達愛的方式。 同時，Tina可能不喜歡Edward表達愛的方式。 我倆都學會了關注彼此的需求，並以另一半可以理解的方式表達自己的愛。

Why the photographer and videographer would talk about this kind of thing? It is because we care. The reason to have shots done for couples and weddings is because we want to ‘preserve love’. Photos and videos let us experience the emotion and the happiness again and again. These memories give us strength and energy to keep going. We record your vows – ‘Words of affirmation’; we bless our clients with what we can give – ‘Acts of service’; the photos and videos are definitely the best gifts to our couples which help them to have the important day relived- ‘Receiving gifts’; we freeze the time and make it last forever – ‘Quality time’; although we may not be able to give lots of hugs and kisses to our clients, our works can touch their hearts – ‘Physical touch’. 為什麼攝影師和錄像師會談論這種事情？ 這是因為我們在乎。 為情侶和婚禮拍照拍片的原因是因為我們想要“保留愛情”。 照片和錄像讓我們一次又一次體驗情感和幸福。 這些記憶可驅使我們不斷前進。 我們記錄您的誓言-“肯定的話”； 我們用我們可提供的去祝福我們我們的客戶-“服務行為”； 這些照片和錄像絕對是送給我們客人最好的禮物，可以幫助他們再次感受重要的一天-“接收禮物”； 我們把時間凍結-“優質時間”； 儘管我們可能無法給予客人很多擁抱和親吻，但我們以作品去打動他們的心-“身體接觸”。

Hope the above tips help. Feel free to let us know if it works. The lockdown is the best time to invest in love and relationship. 希望以上提示對您有所幫助。 讓我們知道是否有效。 社區隔離期間是投資愛